“From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive.” -Proverbs 16:23
May I humbly suggest we take the above Bible verse and memorize it so that our words will not ruin any chances of us receiving blessings, saying, “I’m sorry” and humbling ourselves when we are in the wrong, and truly mean it is the absolute guarantee to our successes.
Blaming others and accusing others for our mistakes only destroys our reputation, character, honor, and integrity. These things are what promotes and distinguishes you amongst the rest. If we aren’t wise to preserve and protect ourselves we loose out big time.
Wise people are persuasive with their kind, respectful, and loving words. Wise people aren’t fake. They are real people who clearly understand what kindness, caring, and loving others is all about. They understand when they are wrong and apologize, making amends for the wrong they have done.
The proud and rude person takes no responsibility for their actions at all. It’s everyone’s fault. It’s society. It’s the leaders. It’s the environment. It's all about them and the poor-me syndrome and entitlement mentality. The whole world owes them. No character, no honor, no integrity in anything that comes forth out of their mouths.
Friends, guard your mouth and control your tongue. If we can’t control our mind, mouth, and tongue, we can’t control our actions, and our words will come back to destroy us.
So, then, what do I mean by destroy us? I mean I (and many others in leadership positions like me) will never work with people who have these character traits. The last thing any wise person ever wants is to show themselves as unwise to the Chief Executive Officer or President of any company. I was in a meeting where the person was supposed to pass in a very important document for the last 2 months. An agreement was made, emails confirmed, due dates established, and extensions were allowed by me. I normally don’t do that. If I say, “It needs to be done by this date no exception.” Then it better be in my possession by midnight that day. I was being extremely kind to the person, allowing the project to go beyond September 1.
Wise people take responsibility and will try to explain themselves in a truthful and respectful manner. That didn’t happen this morning. I got blamed even when I had the 6 emails clearly stating what was to be done, by whom, and by when. When I refused to accept the disrespectful accusation, I was accused of being at fault. The person completely ignored the remaining five emails that were exchanged. When fault was proved to be theirs, it turned into I was being prejudice.